Helping you to unlock your personal power when life has felt heavy.

To the woman reading this who maybe feels like she’s lost her sparkle.

Here is a little love note from me to you, today, reminding you how totally okay it is to feel like you’ve lost yourself, and more importantly, a soul chat about shifting your energy and taking back your personal power.

Have you ever had one of those days when you look in the mirror, catch a glimpse of yourself or how you’re feeling and think, “who even is that?” It’s like one day you're on top of your game, and the next, you're slumbered on the couch watching netflix, eating cereal for dinner (for the third time this week) and wondering how many days you can get away with dry shampoo.

We've all been there 🤍
So, firstly I’d love for you to acknowledge that it’s perfectly okay to feel this way.

Life is continuously going toss us curveballs, and sometimes (not always) they'll knock us off our feet. That in itself is so perfect — because life happens for you, not to you, and each of these curveballs plays a significant part in who you become.

I tell you that, because when we know that, we can fall down and get back up time and time again. And it doesn't get easier, you just get better.

So here are 8 tips that you can begin implementing that will help you to take back your power.

1. Unplug from tech and breathe 🧘🏼‍♀️

Okay so i’m confident that you know the world won’t stop if you don’t check your emails or socials for a few hours. Seriously, it can wait. Allow yourself the gift of white space and just be. Maybe it’s spending Saturday morning tucked in bed with your favourite SMUT book, or taking a long walk without your phone buzzing at you every 5 seconds. Give yourself permission to slow down, breathe deeply, and embrace a moment of stillness. Slowing down can really help you tune into your own desires without the noise of the world telling you who to be. 

2. Declutter the excess 📦

And no, I’m not just talking about finally tackling the 6 baskets of washing in the lounge room (although, that might help too). It’s about taking a look at your life and gently setting aside the things (and sometimes people) that no longer serve you or bring you peace. This isn’t about ghosting your high school friends or throwing out everything but your yoga mat — but being honest about what’s truly adding value to your life and removing anything that doesn’t.

3. Reconnect with what makes your heart full 🧁

When was the last time you did something just because it made your heart happy? I want you to think back to when you were just a small human and those old hobbies that used to make you lose track of time — like baking cake, painting your imagination, or dancing in your living room just because you could. Sometimes when life gets full, the things that bring us the most joy often get pushed out of mind. These little moments aren't just joy inducing — they're like food for your soul. So I’d love to challenge you to create your own joy menu of what fills your heart, and whenever life feels heavy, turn to that.

4. Set boundaries like a pro (if you’re a recovering people pleaser, this one will be hard for you 😉)

And just so we’re on the same page - setting boundaries isn't about building walls, however the boundaries you create are the standards for how others will treat you, respect you, what you will accept and what you won’t. Having strong boundaries is understanding your value, knowing your priorities and making sure that others do as well. Whether it’s saying no to plans, people and events, or not checking work emails after hours, boundaries help you to raise your own standards and level of self-respect. And honestly, there’s something super empowering about not wavering in those standards without falling into a pit of apologies. Remember, you can only be of service to others if you are strong, empowered and your feet are solidly on the ground.

5. Celebrate small wins 🙌🏼

Got out of bed at a reasonable hour? Awesome. Made a home-cooked meal instead of ordering takeaway? Go you! Small wins are our daily achievements and progress toward the greater goals. They may seem insignificant at first glance because we’re too focused on the bigger picture, but they play a significant role in building resilience and character. Just remember that celebrating them can help to boost your mood and motivation, making the journey of taking back your power less overwhelming.

 

“The great victory, which appears so simple today, was the result of a series of small victories that went unnoticed.” –  Paulo Coelho.

 

7. Let your beliefs create your reality 🧠

The thoughts you think and the words you speak hold so much power! Power to create new possibilities or to close them down. Power to build relationships or to damage them. Power to lift people up or to drown them, yourself included. Psychologists have even found that our subconscious mind interprets what it hears very literally. The words that come out of your mouth therefore create the reality you inhabit. Whenever you are feeling a waver in your personal power, choose to be extra conscious of your language.

“Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny.”
- Ghandi

 

8. Build trust within yourself ⚡️

Most people don’t trust themselves. It’s harsh and it’s the truth. How many times have you said you were going to do something, and had all the best intentions, but never actually followed through?
The easiest way to build self trust is by following through on the things you say you’re going to do. And i don't mean trusting your intentions - they’re a mirage of a thirsty mind in a hot desert. You see what you want to see.

Here's the thing...
Promises are cheap; execution is not. If you don’t keep the word you give to yourself, you stop trusting yourself. The bigger the gap between what you say you’ll do, and what you actually do, the more your self-trust erodes.

It's human nature. We live in a world of powerful forces. There’s distraction and attraction, and when you make grand plans, you’re only using one part of your brain. Instead of promising yourself the world, promise yourself to do only what you know you can and will do.

And if these tips feel overwhelming to you, start with one, and gradually build on them.

Taking back your power isn't a linear journey ❤️‍🩹
There will be days when you feel like you're not making progress, and that's okay. The key is to keep moving forward, even if it means falling down, and getting back up.

Lastly, I want to leave you with this...

Scientists tell us that the odds of you being born, alive and breathing, in this lifetime, are 1 in 400,000,000,000,000. The odds of you being on this earth are infinitely tiny. And yet with those incredibly low odds, you are here.

That means you matter.

That means you have a purpose.

That means you are capable and worthy of doing significant things.

Do you know how powerful that makes you? 

Just imagine how you would move through the world if you remembered that every single day ✨

Here’s to you and reclaiming your power

From my heart to yours 🤎
Jess x